A Story of Two Buddies
I filmed this months in the past on the best way to an 80s celebration. It was earlier than the virus, quarantine, social distancing, masks & earlier than we entered a civil warfare in our nation which has divided so many mates.
Allyson Allyson Byrd and I had been meant to fulfill and develop into mates. When she left TX for CA she moved in with me for two months to recalibrate her well being and encourage a bodily revolution for her physique.
She joked with me that she was my “solely Black buddy” (um not true) however she is a brutally trustworthy (and deliberately disruptive) buddy. Which means she’s going to all the time inform me EXACTLY how she sees issues with out holding again.
Our friendship grew whereas serving to one another – I helped her along with her well being, she helped me with enterprise, She taught me “soul meals”, I taught her that sort of goodness is a particular TREAT. I taught her to pressure her personal imaginative and prescient, she taught me to be a greater story teller and to inform a greater story for my life, my enterprise and my viewers.
We take pleasure in so many woman talks. Simply enjoyable woman talks that go on for hours. We think about one another household. All through conversations and our shares, I shared beliefs I held for 48 years ALL with the precise intentions. Issues like:
- “I don’t see coloration bc everybody is identical”
- “There isn’t a things like white privilege, most don’t come from cash and wouldn’t have straightforward lives”
- She listened after which opened my thoughts in her uniquely inclusive and difficult fashion, she invited me to face my privilege.
Here’s what I now perceive as a result of she cared sufficient about progress to have this dialogue.
Saying and believing that we “don’t see coloration” will not be okay and never truly true. I used to be shocked at this! I imply I used to be raised to not see coloration and to deal with all people the identical. I believed it was the precise factor to really feel and say. I didn’t perceive how offensive that might be to my Black mates. I do know now that after we really SEE PEOPLE we get to see their WHOLE self and that features their historical past and their coloration.
I additionally discovered from her that simply being born with white pores and skin offers many immediate privilege. It has nothing to do with cash, your circumstances, what you’ve been by means of… there’s privilege of simply having white pores and skin. Which means their may be fewer stereotypes and judgement due to white pores and skin coloration.
I would like mates to return again collectively. I would like all to be handled with the identical dignity and respect no matter their coloration and I would like individuals to begin having these actual conversations with an open coronary heart and thoughts.
In our “protecting it actual” talks, Allyson has expanded and adjusted my perspective. I’m grateful that she cared a lot about change to have these conversations with me.
We now have a number of confusion in our world relating to race. We have to cease.
There’s no confusion relating to equality and justice for all. My buddy issues. Her Black pores and skin issues. My love for her issues.
WE HAVE A FRIENDSHIP THAT CELEBRATES COLOR… I’m Jewish and he or she’s Black. The historical past of our ancestors introduced us collectively in a world that needed to maintain us a component.
As we speak I have fun her and her historical past.
For the primary time in my life, I’m saying “Pleased Juneteenth!” and declaring that I’m anti-racist, pro-Black and I stand on the facet of life that opposes injustice in all kinds.